League

"She's out of my league" 

I've always wondered, what is a league? And what in God's name determines which league you're in?
I googled the word "league" and I got this: 
  1. A division of persons or things by quality, rank, or grade: bracket, class, grade, order, rank1, tier.
Is it a looks thing? Coz if that's the case I totally have a league... I will not date a man that is hotter than me. Yes, I am that vain. If, lets say I am a 6/10, the man I date has to be a 6 or a 5..if you're a 4, you probably don't have a shot..no offense...

Is it an education thing? Coz if it is, then boy...that narrows down the number of men a girl can date innit? If its an education thing, then it means the more educated a woman is, the higher she goes in the ranks. Putting it in army terms:
A high school certificate = A Sergeant
A college/ diploma certificate =  A warrant Officer
A university degree = A Lieutentant
A masters degree =  A Captain
A PhD = A Major

I myself am a Captain, and I think I date a Sergeant...I think..

Is it a background thing? Coz if it is then alot of us are in the wrong leagues. Our background usually refers to how you grew up. Which school you went to. Its basically all about your parents money. And judging someone by their parents money is well..daft. There's people with rich parents that go no further than becoming a Sergeant. Yet there's people with not so rich parents that go on to become Majors.

I don't know about you but I think putting people in leagues is kinda shallow.



The Break Up


**Warning: This Blog is Personal**...:p Some of you may know that I just got out of a relationship...by "just" I mean, about a month ago. I have spent some time trying to figure out why this particular relationship failed, because, well..he's generally a good guy. One way I deal with things, is by writing about them. So I decided to write about the break-up..why it happened. This isn't an artistic piece, I just needed to get it out my system.
Reasons for the break up:

1. We are too different...in some cases, differences are supposed to make the relationship interesting, but in this case, they just caused a clash


2. I wasn't ready for the relationship. I realize it now, after its over...but to be honest, I was not ready for it


3.We were moving at a different pace..i.e, he was moving faster than I was. I wanted something a lot more casual...

4. I did what 2 of my girls call a "Tina". I freaked out. I remember about 3 months in, I started feeling trapped. The thought of commitment scared me. And maybe that feeling never went away.

5. I was never comfortable meeting the family. I don't have a problem meeting cousins and siblings...but even I am not comfortable meeting the aunts and older married cousins and the more serious people that early in the relationship.


6. I'm outgoing and he's not. Some say you're supposed to compromise, sometimes stay in, sometimes go out, but I never felt like going "out" with him because well, its not his type of thing so he wasn't hyped up for it


7.I never felt like I fitted in with his friends. I don't know why, but I just never felt free to be myself with them.


8. I am a fucked up person. If you didn't know this. Now you do.