Prayer
When I first decided to start blogging, I promised myself I wasn't going to put up any religious posts because to me, sometimes it can be like you trying to force your beliefs on people. This post ain't about trying to convert people or anything like that. I've just got something on my mind.
In the last few months, in Malawi, there's been this guy on TV from Nigeria. Prophet Joshua is his name and apparently he prays for people and performs miracles etc you know the type. So a lot of Malawians have been flying to Nigeria to get this guy to pray for them.
Now, I have absolutely nothing against having someone pray for you. I mean when I have exams, I always ask my mum to pray for me. But this is different. What concerns me is the lack of faith people have in their own prayers. Why do people believe that God will answer this guy's prayers and he wont answer theirs?
In my experience, if God is gonna answer your prayer, he won't answer it just because you got a pastor or a prophet to pray for you, he'll answer it because he has chosen to give you what you asked for.
It's not like if a prophet prays for you God's gonna pay more attention to that prayer. He's not gonna say
"Angels, stop singing and keep quiet, Prophet Joshua is praying and we have to pay special attention, take notes".
God hears your prayers anyways, he listens to everybody's prayers. The ones you say before you sleep. Even the quick "Thank you God" prayers you say when you're in a hurry. He hears them. God doesn't love the prophets more than you. He loves you all the same. So why do people have so much faith in someone Else's prayers and none in their own?
If you prayed and believed, God's gonna give you an answer, have faith in the power of your own prayers. Know that God hears them and sometimes, if you don't get what you asked for, there's a reason for it. Trust him. No is still an answer. And so is wait. It won't always be a yes. Whatever answer you get, there's a reason...say your prayers tonight, believe he has heard them and sleep easy...:)
List of Things Never To Say To A Man
It was written by a guy called Lawrence..(have no idea who he is)..lol..I just thought my recent posts have been rather girly or soft so....here it is
So where is this going?
If we haven’t asked you out, there is only one possible explanation, we are not ready yet. As for your question, it was heading somewhere until you said these 5 killer words. We are slow by nature, we don’t like to be rushed, and we really hate it when you try to take control of the situation. Just let us do it our way. And if you are tired of waiting, well, move on! Who’s holding
you back?
Where did you learn that?
This question is fine if I just cooked you a delicious dinner, or repaired your computer, or did your hair, or pulled a dance move or any other innocent action for that matter. But if we were under the sheets, what kind of answer are you expecting? Ok, if you really have to know, I learnt it from an XXX-rated magazine. Happy?
I have had a crush on you like since…
Trust me dear, we know! And all my friends know, and all your friends know, and some of them told me like ages ago, even before it struck me. Truth is you ladies are not very good at hiding it when you have a crush on us. Unfortunately, it kills the thrill and mystery of the chase. Imagine if all of a sudden gold lost all its value and glamour. That’s what happens when we know you already like us. Please don’t tell us, and tell your friends to shut up about it, and try your level best to hide it. Ok, who am I kidding, we both know you can’t do it!
Of all my boyfriends, you are the best
Oh reaaaallly!! Let me break it down for you; men love challenge, we live for it. If I’m already the best, what more do I have to prove? Should I move on and find another girl to conquer? Keep me on my toes, just because you said yes doesn’t make me Superman. How about this, ‘Lawrence, I have to say, you blow my mind. I'm just curious what else you can pull’. A simple way to spice up your relationship that many of you forget so easily.
My ex and i…Once my Ex…My Ex used to say…My Ex
WHO CARES!!! Ok, you wanna play this game? My Ex and I once did it in the Principal’s office. My Ex, whose bust was twice yours by the way, had this see through top she wore at home that would just kill me whenever I spent at her place, My Ex used to take yoga classes (know what that means?), My Ex and I once spent a romantic weekend at Maasai Mara, it was wild in every possible way!! Feel me?
We need to talk
These four words shut off a man’s brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. You see, we use these 4 words only once in our relationship’s life, that’s when we want to break up with you. So when you use them, we feel like the tables have suddenly turned on us and we will run so fast in the opposite direction you will wonder if you hooked up with a cheetah. Find other subtle ways of having serious conversation and we will listen.
Nothing’s wrong
You don’t pick up my call for 2 weeks, you don’t respond to my texts, when I pass by your office you act all busy arranging your boss’s desk and the look on your face doesn’t say you love me more than ever before, and you tell me Nothing’s wrong? If you are older than 20, you should have known by now that we’re not mind readers, so please talk! And don’t make us guess because—believe me—you won’t like what we come up with.
Can we just be friends?
Let me share a secret with you ladies. All of us take “I just want to be friends” as “There’s still a chance,” so if there isn’t just make it a clean break and move on. You save yourself numerous irritating phone calls while of course saving us some credit (especially in this recession). A lady friend of mine told me you guys think it is polite. Its not! Do you know those guys who keep a lady hanging on to them, never completely committing themselves but at the same time being overly sweet? That’s the male equivalent to this line.
Am I fat?
What!!? No, you are crazy! Do I look like a gym instructor to you?
Do you think she’s pretty?
Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn’t mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but how do you hide a mouth that is agape? It’s in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, how about you look at that cute guy in other side of the room? Coz we will definitely look at her, head to toe!
Do you know anyone for my friend?
Which one? The cute one who’s always in skimpy clothing or the ugly betty? I was kinda hoping the cute one would remain single just in case we, you know, ended this. As for the ugly one, are you kidding me? Ohh, wait a sec, I have this nerd in my class who’s always asking me to hook him up. Funny story, first time he asked me that, I asked him, ‘With what?’He! he! He! Back to the topic. My dear, I am not a dating consultant. How about you propose a group outing with my friends then you can hook your friend up with one of them? Without my help. Thank you! You’re the best!
What are you thinking about?
Ah, the girlie phrase that out-girlifies all others, including the classic “Do I look fat?” which now takes a close second. Once again, don’t make us tell you because—believe me—it wasn’t about how special our relationship is, though if you insist, that’s precisely what we will tell you. Barca had better defeat Man-U, otherwise those idiots will be boasting for the next 3 seasons!
It was only one time
The tale about that one night you made that one mistake with that one guy – no matter how hilarious – should stay in the vault, along with any other confession that involves alcohol, an ex and –God forbid-visits to the abortion clinic. No, wait, Id like to know about the abortion clinic, when I finally propose to you, not before. Sweety, this is a relationship, not a support group!
Be honest with me
This one could go oh-so-many ways. None of them good. These four words make a man’s stomach knot up even more than if you’d said “Let’s go to brunch with my 10 best girlfriends “. If you’re trying to get his read on something casual, like a new dress, tacking this on sends him the message that his opinion of the dress could be make-or-break (oh my God are you sure you want to wear that top with that tummy?). If it’s about something more serious, such as the DTR (define the relationship) talk, just ask him outright. Boys can become men and give their genuine opinion – if they’re given a chance. No, don’t laugh, I’m serious.
That looks cute
For the most part, men hate cute. We don’t want to hear about it, we don’t want to see it, and we sure as hell don’t want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there’s a 100 per cent chance we’re changing. We’re supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture. Along with this goes such words as
Mellow, Harmless, Placid, Docile, thoughtful (especially with regards to the bedroom), and the deal breaker, OK. We hate Ok! How about Awsome, Handsome and any other adjective that ends with ‘some’?
That wasn’t so hard to learn, was it? Next time you meet your hubby, give him a passionate kiss and tell him “yes!” for once.
R.I.P
I want to take this moment and put up this particular post to say Rest In Peace to Mr Emmanuel Mahuka. He was a great father and friend and uncle. I knew him all my life and I would like to extend my heart felt condolences to his family. You are in my prayers.
Humility or low self-esteem?
There's a friend of mine that I'm constantly arguing with. She claims she's humble, I say she just has really low self-esteem.
She believes that successful black men do not date black women. I don't know which world she lives in when men like Will Smith, Denzel Washington and Barack Obama are all married to black women
She believes that girls like her cannot get guys of a certain level. Bear in mind, she's one of the prettiest friends I have, has a degree in architecture. Nice long hair and she's slim.
She believes that the guys she likes will never like her because there's always a better girl in their lives.
And all this, she claims, is because she's humble and does not wish to be proud and think more highly of herself.
I think she just has low self-esteem. There's a thin line between humility and low self-esteem.
What are your thoughts?
Love yourself Enough
If you're in a situation that is making you unhappy, love yourself enough to walk away. If you're in a relationship that appears to be one-sided, and you're giving your all and receiving nothing;
Love yourself enough to walk out.
Love yourself enough to have high standards when looking for the right person to be with.
Love yourself enough to want more than just the average life for yourself.
Love yourself enough to not self- destruct. I've noticed that most of the stress and hurt we go through, is self inflicted. We put ourselves in situations that are neither healthy nor beneficial. As a result, most of our battles are within.
Love yourself enough to not cause your heart any misery.
You deserve all the joy and happiness, love yourself enough to make sure you're getting that joy and happiness...:)
Live
I read a quote the other day that said "If we all foresaw everything before it happened, life would be very boring" I know there's times we all wish we could see the outcome of certain situations, wish we could just get a glimpse of where we'll be in 10 years time so can can know if we're on the right track, but if you think about it, the uncertainty is what makes life so much fun.
If you were going to a football game and before the game starts, you already had a vision of who was gonna win, you wouldn't have as much fun watching the game. I have a friend that tells me that when she first got to campus for her undergraduate degree, God showed her who she's gonna marry. At first I thought, that's so cool, but then the more I think about it, the more I'm happy I don't have that information.
Part of life is being afraid, being uncertain, finding things out, going through all kinds of emotional roller coasters. That is what makes life what it is. So whatever situation you may be in, enjoy the confusion, don't kill yourself trying to see the situation 5 years from now, live for the moment, enjoy not knowing what the future holds. Have fun. Live and let Live.
Why do people Cheat?
Some people say people cheat because they can. Others say they do it to fill a void that is not being filled in their current relationships. Others do it out of boredom. Whatever the case is. Why be with someone if they're not the only person you want to be with? Why not just stay single and mingle?
another question comes to mind: What constitutes cheating? If you're in a relationship but you're sharing intimate texts with someone else, are you cheating? You're not actually touching this other person, you're just havign intimate chats. Is emotional intimacy qualified to be called cheating? We all know physical intimacy is cheating, no questions there.
But where do we draw the line? When does it stop being innocent flirtation and start becoming cheating? and why do people even start going down that road?
It Sucks when...(a personal problem)
There's this friend of mine, known him for years and I kinda like him, quite a lot. Now he has a girlfriend, but sometimes, he'll come up, texting me, calling me about me and him getting together in the future, how we'd be so good together etc, we chat about it for a couple of days then we dont talk again for a while. Though, while we talkin about it, its like, giving me some kind of false hope. Then when we stop talking, I get over him for a while. Then just when I'm getting used to not talkin to him, he shows up again..and this time, he's all over me, kissed me n shit...the next day, he's talkin about bringing his girlfriend to my sisters wedding. I really want to just yell at him but I can't. I don't even know what to say. But I'm tired of it.
Ir sucks when someone just uses you to stroke their ego
It sucks when you like someone and they somehow take advantage of that
It sucks when someone you like, just takes it for granted that you're there
It sucks when you can't yell at a friend, coz it might just spoil the friendship.
It just sucks!
Impatience is a Virtue
Patience waits, never asks for the pay rise, always finishes last, never just goes for it, always leaves things to be done later on, waits for things to happen.
Impatience goes for it, makes things happen, always finishes first. Impatience gives you the drive, the ambition to make it, doesn't wait for anybody to do the work for you. Gets to the front and gets on top of things.
The trick is to recognize when a situation would benefit from either impatience or patience. If you're working with lazy people, impatience comes in handy, because you get the work done. I'm not encouraging anybody to go and jump queues in the supermarket..lol..that's just rude. What I'm saying is: If you want something, Go for it, don't wait for it to come to you. If you want something done, get up and get it done. Time waits for no man. Impatience, if used correctly, Is a virtue.
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Why does everything become a racial issue?
One thing I've noticed that bugs me a lot is how black people turn everything into a racial issue.
When Micheal Jackson died, black people (especially in the states) were quick to turn him into some kind of savior for the black race. Like he did great things for black people. Jamie Foxx even said that Micheal Jackson belonged to black people and we shared him with the world. In rev Al's. speech, he went on about how MJ opened the doors for black people in the music industry. i'm not syaing he didn't but why did his death become a racial thing?
Let me point out that MJ didn't seem to want to be a black man. He changed his skin colour for whatever reason. He had his kids with a white woman. I mean, if he regretted becoming white, I think he would have made sure his kids were black so at least they would get to be black..lol
So why did the black community make it some big race thing?
Another case is Naomi Campbell's recent photo shoot. She had a photo shoot where she was playing jump rope with monkeys..lol.. To me, it was just artistic and funny.. But people on twitter where on about how its racist and disturbing..Why? How the hell are we supposed to rise as a people when we are so petty?
Quote of the day:
There is no impossibility to him who stands prepared to conquer every hazard.
The fearful are the failing.
Sarah J. Hale
Can You Learn to Love someone?
Now, I have always been a firm believer in the notion that Love is meant to happen naturally. You either Love someone or you don't. It just happens. But here is the big dilemma that alot of people face at some point. There are times when you really like someone and you want to be with them, but then they are not that into you. At the same time, there is someone else that likes you and really wants to be with you but you are not into them. Question is: Are you supposed to just date the person that's into you even though you're not feeling them, and just somehow learn to love them?
As a woman, when you are approaching a certain age, the pressure to settle down becomes intense. With your parents trying to hook you up with random guys. "hey, this is so and so's son, why don't you guys go out for lunch"..lol. and all your friends getting married, it can become frustrating. so, if you are at that age and you find yourself in the situation I just described above. What do you do? You're not getting younger. You can literally hear your biological clock ticking..lol.. Most people would just settle for the guy that's into them even though they are not feeling him.
From my research, most of the people I spoke to said, they might as well just go for it and somehow hope the person grows on them with time: fear of being alone. Others said, its better to be alone that to be with someone you dont really like. Because at the end of the day, even if you grow fond of him, it won't be love, it will be fondness and your heart will still be looking for love elsewhere. hmmm...any thoughts on this?
Caster Semenya
So in the news the last couple of days there's been talk about South African athlete Caster Semenya. She won a gold medal for the womens 800m race and since then, she's been disqualified because there is a huge question mark about her gender. So, she's an 18 year old girl, she's masculine, has a deep voice, and I won't lie, she does looka bit like a man. But, I am sickened by the cruelty and harshness that people have displayed. Firstly: people are acting like they have never seen a woman with muscle. Venus and Serena Williams have muscles that would shame any man in my phone book (no offense)..lol Secondly: Facial hair? There are plenty of women that grow mustaches, they just shave em so men have no idea. I happen to have a couplde of aunties with a bit of facial. It does not immediately make her a man Thirdly: Deep voice? like ya'll have never met a man with an extremely high voice? There was a plumber that used to come to my house and I swear his voice was as high as Mariah Carey's and he was a married man with children. It happens. Why is it that when someone is in the spotlight and people are accusing them of all sorts of things, people act ignorant, like they've never seen anything like it? When Chris Brown hit Rihanna, everyone went crazy like they've never seen women living with domestic abuse. I'm not saying its right to hit women, but there are plenty of women that looked at Rihanna's pic and thot "pssh, you should see wat my husband did to me the other day, all you got was a slap". There is nothing new under the sun. Remember that. I choose to give her the benefit of the doubt because it is extremely humiliating and hurtful for the world to tell any woman that she is a man. Put yourself in her shoes for just 10 seconds. Imagine her pain. Has the world become so shallow that we just judge people by appearance? It is sad indeed. Let me also add, that some of the people pointing fingers, are probably more masculine than she is and probably not even half as talented as she is. Why wont you let Caster be great?
