The other day I had a light-bulb moment. You know those moments when you somehow see things clearly or find a solution to your deep-rooted problems. I’m gonna share this light-bulb thing with you; I hope you’ll understand it...
See, here’s the thing about rebound relationships: When you get out of a relationship, especially if you’ve been dumped, you feel...vulnerable, lonely...abandoned. Coz you know , for a while, you had someone there, someone to talk to, someone to call you and text you, someone to keep you company and so on then suddenly, that person is gone. So most people, I included, tend to get into some sort of rebound fling to fill the void. The way I see rebound flings is like this: You’re vulnerable so you’re pretty much looking for someone to lean on, in a way. Now, the person you choose to rebound with/ lean on is crucial because, get this, if he/she is not stable, you can’t lean on him/her because he/she will let you down.
You can’t rebound with someone that has more issues than a magazine.
You can’t rebound with someone that is emotionally unstable
You can’t rebound with someone that has unresolved issues with his ex
You can’t rebound with someone that is also on the rebound.
And oh goodness, you can’t rebound with someone that is exactly like your ex.
If the person you’re rebounding with has issues, is unstable, on the rebound and has issues with his ex, he/she will not fill the void; in fact, they will probably just make the void bigger. If this person is dealing with their own issues, they’re unstable, unreliable. It’s like leaning heavy on a pile of sand. All they have to do is move a metre, change their behaviour and you fall. You end up right back where you started: lonely, abandoned and vulnerable. Only this time, you’ve got a much bigger void to fill coz you’re not just dealing with a failed relationship; you’re now also dealing with a failed fling, and trust me, that is a heavier load to carry.
So as much as rebound flings are fun, be wise in choosing who you rebound with.
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