Why I Sometimes Hate Black People

As a black person I have to say, sometimes my people just get on my last damn nerves.

For some reason, we hate it when white people say we're loud and ignorant, and yet, we behave in manners that display this ignorance...and we're very loud about our ignorance.

When I was flying to Nairobi from Dubai the flight was slightly delayed and while the white people sat quietly and accepted that the flight was going to get there in due time, the black people made so much noise, as if the noise would get the aircraft there faster.

As for the ignorance, why is it that for black people, hustling is now the ïn thing". Its no longer cool or admirable to get an educcation and get a job or start a business in a legal and proper way. Nowadays, all black men have to have a side hustle to be admired by other black men. Its all about avoiding the popo and earning that extra buck in a way that you can't explain to your parents without sweating.

Why is it that when black people start a discussion or trending topic on twitter it's always a foolish one. If you're a twitter you'll know what i'm talking about. I can almost assure you the trending topics about the war in Iraq or anything on CNN are not started by black people. If you see a trending topic like #threewordsaftersex or #urehittingitwrong or #fabsteeth or anything along those useless lines, you can be sure there's a black person behind it. Why must we always display our foolishness?

Why is it always the black people that have a problem with inter racial dating. Any black girl that's been with a white guy will tell you that when they're walking in town together, it's always the black people that give them the "side eye"or the dirty looks.

Why are black women so bitchy? Yes, I realise I am also a black woman but still....
I want my brother to marry a white woman, coz they are soo much nicer...lol

Have a nice day my niggaz...lol

Que Sera Sera

Que Sera Sera: Whatever will be will be.

Whenever you're stressed out and thinking about "what ifs" and getting scared thinking about the future, think of this: Whatever will be will be.

There's some things that are just meant to happen. And I honestly and trully believe that whatever,s meant to happen will happen. Sometime's its unavoidable. For you to become the person you're meant to become, there are some things that have to happen. The only problem is, God didn't give us a list of these things, so when they're happening, we panic and get heart attacks and worry about it, when actually, they have to happen so we can take a step closer to the ultimate goal.

Whatever's meant to happen will happen. Don't worry about things that are beyond your control.

Bridal Showers and Marriage Education..

My sister had her bridal shower last weekend and as much as I missed it, I have been given the highlights. A bridal shower, for those that don't know, is basically just for the aunt's and mother of the bride to sit down and tell the bride what to do and what not to do in marriage. I believe it's supposed to help her become a good wife. I don't know about you but I don't think I'm gonna need one of those because I have learnt alot about marriage by watchin other people's marriages, including my parents, and listening to stories about what other people's husbands and wives have been doing.
Here is a list of my marriage advice ( from a girl tha's not even in a relationship..lol)

1. Be honest with each other. Even about the little things, coz its always the little things that starts the biggest fights
2. Don't beat each other up..lol.. if your man or woman is beating you up before you get married, dont'walk down the aisle, you'd rather cancel an expensive wedding than live with a re-occuring black eye..lol
3. If your husband or wife cheats on you, and you feel that you cannot completely forgive AND forget, leave. Because if you stay there with the anger, you'll make the marriage uncomfortable.
4. Don't bring up old mistakes in new arguments. If he/she did something last week and you already argued about it, don't bring it up in this weeks' argument.
5. Take a shower twice a day, nobody wants to sleep next to stinky steve.
6. Ladies, that head scarf MUST be washed. It starts to smell of hair grease and sweat.
7. Guys, don't put your boys first. If you put em first, you better sleep with them too..lol
8. LISTEN!
9. If you're wrong, admit it and apologize. You have no idea how many fights can be avoided if one person just admits they're wrong.
10. Work together. If you know you and your significant other are saving up to buy a house or pay the kid's school fees, don't go shoe shopping or PSP shopping and then hide the goods from your partner. Alot of couples fight about money, be transparent with it.

Most Importantly: Marry for Love, not money, not convenience, not tradition, not desperation, not sex, and not just because she's pregnant, children don't keep a marriage together, Love does.

I'm pretty good for a single gal right?..lol

Where do We go wrong?

After being in Kenya for a month and Malawi for a month, I feel that I can give quite a good report on why it,s taking Malawi quite a while to develop. I'll try and do this without touching the subject of how much money the country has.

First of all, Malawians are the most laid-back people you will ever meet in your entire life. Nobody is ever in a hurry to do anything. On the roads in town, everyone drives at 50km/hr which by the way is really slow if you have places to go. Even if you go to customer care center for which ever company, the people there can't be bothered to hurry up and attend to the customers. As much as it's nice that everyone's calm and all, this won't help the country move faster. We need a bit of aggressiveness and a "go- getter" attitiude.

Secondly, there's a lack of imagination. Even in the smallest things, there is much that could be done to improve services in the country. I went to Steers for lunch and what they do there is; after you order, they'll write your order number on the receipt and you take a seat and then when your food is ready, the waitress will walk around calling out the order number until she finds the person who ordered. Why exactly can they not just come up with those table stands that have numbers written on them, so the person will their order number standing there for the waitress to see? Small things like this will improve services in that country.

Thirdly, malawians are too familiar with each other. Although this is one of the fatcors that make the country so warm and friendly, its also bad for business. The last time a malawian opened a club, it was big hit, everyone loved it, but...it had to shut down shortly after opening..why? because everyone that knew the owner used to walk in for free and get free drinks. If you're malawian you know that it's a very small country. And you won't know just how popular you are until you're in business then everyone knows you and everyone feels like you owe them free services.

Fourthly: Malawians are to scared of risk. There is a general negativity that a person receives from friends and family when they decide to go into private business. When my father decided to retire and do his own thing, almost everyone he knows said "what if it fails?, you'd rather stay in employment". As a result of this attitude, most private businesses in malawi are owned by Indians and nowadays, Nigerians.

Malawians need to wake up before we lose our country to foreigners. Why should they come in and make money on our land as if we have no brains and no education? Be aggressive, being in employment is not even a plan.